Assuming that you're the same idlewords who wrote this [0] blog post in 2005:

It's funny - as someone seemingly a little bit younger than you, I'm pretty sure your top recommendation, The Master & Margarita, did replace Kundera, at least in my experience.

(which - no disrespect to Bulgakov and tongue planted in cheek - is a shame, because Kundera's better!)

I like Murakami, but I think he'd make for a poor "sexually-transmitted book". Most women I know would treat a line-up of his work on a shelf as a bit of a red flag, actually.

[0] https://idlewords.com/2005/11/dating_without_kundera.htm