> because threatening your parents that they can't see the kids of they don't stop is in most cases not a healthy move.
At some point one has to ask oneself: what's the best outcome for my child?
At some point one has to ask oneself: what's the best outcome for my child?
This is exactly the way it is supposed to work.
Sad to hear that the commenters parents care more for cultivating their social media presence than the wishes of their own child.
to me a good relationship with my parents is more important than staying out of facebook.
I guess we just see things differently. To me a "good relationship with my parents" involves mutual respect of boundaries. It shouldn't even get to the point of threats.
I understand that for some and maybe even yourself this may be an unlikely outcome or you might just think it not worth the effort on this particular issue given how pervasive social media already is.
to me, a good relationship with my parents (and inlaws) and between my children and their grandparents is more important than preventing any photos made of them.
However, it's more than just preventing photos. It's about respecting boundaries. At some point your parents need to respect your authority in your children's lives. They're your children, not your parents children. Ultimately you are responsible for their wellbeing. They should be supporting your parenting, not undermining it.
This, obviously, is one issue among many, and may not be representative of a broader pattern. From your hesitation it sounds like this is one disagreement in an otherwise healthy dynamic. Again, you know better than us. But if it is a pattern, I encourage you to play that pattern forward. If your parents don't respect your boundaries, what does it look like if your parents don't respect your children's boundaries as they grow?
we seem to have different priorities. to some here it seems of primary importance that their parents respect their boundaries. to me, forgiveness, tolerance and a healthy relationship with my family is more important, and my boundaries that i don't want violated are much tighter.