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I recently interviewed a candidate that seemed solid technically but kept calling me bro. I’m pretty laid back but that was a fail. Note to everyone here: don’t do that.

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You are probably not as laid back as you think you are, bro.

Maybe you’re right, bro. I guess I can live with that, bro.

Bruh.

Counter note: I've done 100s of interviews. A bro, bruh, or brah wouldn't even register as something notable to me. This is just how my younger coworkers talk.

Their use of "bet" has taken some getting used to.

I haven't had that happen, but it would be refreshing. I would be really weirded out by a "sir" though. casual environments where people can just work and not worry about wearing a persona are nice.

I would also be weirded out by sir. I say dude a lot but I wouldn’t throw that out like a nervous tic in an interview—it’s a little too familiar and doesn’t exactly reflect situational awareness.

I think the use of "sir" depends on the person's background culture. If you're from the US, it's probably too formal unless you're in the military or something, but other cultures place a higher value on respect for authority. I've had people not originally from the US call me "sir", and while I make sure they know they don't have to, I also don't worry about it.

Chillax, bro.

I recently interviewed at a place where the interviewers kept calling me bro or dude, so maybe they'll match with each other at some point.

Without wanting to get into a discussion of the gender-neutrality of those words, I'm not a man and everyone that I talked with there was, and it just felt odd.

The same sort of problem exists across generations. I've had a few meetings with potential clients for our business who were quite young (sometimes literally but certainly culturally) and it felt like they were speaking a different language. When that language sounds like sound bites they probably heard on TikTok last night and yet somehow conveys no useful information whatsoever it's usually a good sign not to pursue that deal any further! You don't have to be all stuffy and formal but professional presentation and effective communication are valuable skills. I can only imagine what they must sound like when they're interviewing potential employees for their own business.

I call everyone dude regardless of gender. #genderequality

> Note to everyone here: don’t do that.

Note to everyone here: Not everyone is as uptight as this guy and you shouldn't be either.

No cap, fr fr.

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