ANC has a many dodgy edge cases that can go wrong, but I've done some more reading on it and if acoustics PhDs say it's very safe I'll just have to take it at face value until more data exists.
I still think that ANC is good for the ears by reducing the needed volume in every day situations. And it also helps that most ANC headphones are designed in a way that also passively isolates the outside world to reduce the burden on the ANC and as a side effect also on your ears.
Hearing is literally "pressure [changes] on the eardrum". Unless it's outside the frequency range of our hearing, if there's waves hitting your eardrum, you hear them.
So either you're not expressing yourself clearly enough our you've seriously misunderstood how sound works.
Constant elevated pressure created by ANC working to destructively interfere with an external sound waves is not perceived as sound.
But it is extra pressure on the eardrum.
BTW where in the video do they mention elevated pressure?
I can definitely feel my issue get exacerbated with ANC even when I am not playing any music or playing music at low volume (have tried several devices including airpods where my issue is the worst, probably because their ANC is the best). So there is definitely something going on with ANC such that even when I have it on with extremely low volume music, it triggers my issue. -- Even when at the same "perceived volume" of non-ANC sounds the issue doesn't get triggered.
So much so that I do not use ANC. The issue gets triggered within seconds of when I start using it. So instead I just play music on very very low sound on my wireless earphones.
I don't why it happens with ANC, would love to know.