Meta on the Fediverse: to block or not to block?

A lot of it is way too focused on making their instances safe spaces for everyone by creating the illusion that the Internet isn't a representation of societal behavior. Instead of blocking misbehaving (like those who dogpile, doxxx, whatever) users, many instance admins often block/defederate entire instances if they don't comply with the same strict rules. Users using #fediblock to point out individual users and their posts on instances are often requesting full defederation if admins/mods don't comply with banning users.

I love the idea of the Fediverse but the matrix (not meant in an "we're all in the Matrix!!" way) of people who get to decide whom I can follow and interact with is quite chaotic.

One of my accounts is on a german instance that even defederated single user instances because the admins simply don't like the the user. It's madness.

I know abuse is a problem, especially for people who often get targetted for harassment. I don't want to play that down. But isn't there a better way to handle this? I wish the Fediverse would be in a state where this could be debated with more nuance instead of calling anyone who is critical of the rather strict policing going on.