Being hateful, insulting, or otherwise offensive is not a big deal if we can still work along. These stupid "codes of conduct" make civilization impossible. Worse, they force the language to be boringly insipid.
One could argue that the difference here is that codes of conduct are being enforced in a top-down fashion, that is, the people you disagree with are actually in the leadership of the project. But I can see how this argument could just as well be used to justify the value of codes of conduct.
FWIW, I've tried but I simply cannot decide if I'm ultimately in favor or against codes of conduct.
> Being hateful, insulting, or otherwise offensive is not a big deal if we can still work along.
and those that think:
> I can't work along somebody who is hateful, insulting, or otherwise offensive.
I'm not sure either group is completely right, but it seems that being nicer would solve this whole problem...
I agree 100%. Being nice is the best and solves nearly everything. Problem is, COCs give undue power to some non-nice people via "enforcement committees" and whatnot.
It's remarkable - your supervisor behaves in an increasingly unhinged manner towards you, and you go look for informal conflict resolution and none is to be had. Yes, there is a code of conduct, there is the diversitylady, but no way of putting a conflict to bed, just the CoC committee that we are asked to trust.
Pfui!
In a different workplace I have worked through mediation and the outcome could be accepted.