I started using the Internet in the mid-90s, back when it was still primarily a communications platform. It's now primarily an economic platform with a side dish of conflict promotion. (But of course the Internet is huge, and you can find worthwhile things and communities if you try.)
But back in the 90s (and moreso before that), the average Internet user was more technically minded. For instance, everyone on IRC had a basic sense of how NAT affected TCP connection setup and whether a private message or DCC chat would be more appropriate, and who should initiate the DCC chat. They had a sense of what a T1 line was and had a better mental model of how pieces connected together. Nowadays, the average user doesn't have to navigate technical issues and can only be trusted to know the difference between swiping left and swiping right.
This makes it easy for major services to pimp their own users and make obscene amounts of money.
That said, the dream of the 90s is alive in Lemmy and other new technologies. It would be sad if you didn't explore what's out there.