I was widowed after 15 years and I have been using dating apps for the last few years and in my experience you are absolutely correct on pretty much everything.

I know who I am and what I like. I advertise that on my profile and I take folks on dates that I like to do by myself. I’ve had a lot of success with relationships of all different lengths and levels of casual-ness.

If you are a dude in the dating pool and you are positioning yourself as what you think women want, you’re doing yourself a disservice.