I feel for you man. I live in Brooklyn where I can meet all the weirdos I want (though the fact that we're so spread out makes having a 'community' hard sometimes). So I get why Reddit and its ilk would seem like the best available option. But if at all possible, I think moving to where your people are is going to scratch the itch more holistically.
This person has been thinking hard about this: https://twitter.com/Prigoose, https://prigoose.substack.com/