I never really used Java, but I have used Ruby and Python (IIRC Python's APIs were modelled on the Java ones) and I agree it can be painful. The thing is, even with an awkward async implementation it's something you have to deal with relatively infrequently when synchronous is the default (as it is in most languages). When you do it can be a pain, but I'd rather have this "occasional pain" vs. "pain every time I want to do any I/O operation".
Personally I like how Go does things.