Even at prices and hours like this, there are year long wait lists for spots in these. I've several times had to take my kid out of childcare (kicked out, or they went out of business) and had to hire a nanny full time for 6 mo to 1 year before I could find another childcare spot. At the time I was paying 110% of my take home income to have a nanny despite having a PhD in a high demand field, burning through my savings with hopes of finding another childcare spot without ending my career. Not sure how anyone else does this.
As of now, I WFH while watching my son alone about half of the hours, which is really hard. I feel like I am not giving him the attention he deserves, and it's really hard to focus.
Looking at the families I know, the mother (or grandparents if they're local, willing, and able) make child-rearing their top priority. Either that or they live in a country with dirt-cheap childcare due to cheap labor.
I am a single dad with shared custody. The mom helps when she can but her career is very demanding and a top priority for her. Neither of us have any family support- we both had to move to the only city where we were both offered jobs in our respective fields, far away from family.
Compared to my colleagues and co-workers deciding to have kids is seen as an eccentricity. The only people I know that do it in my field are men in their 50s that have cashed out on startups and have stay at home wives. Professional Women having kids is virtually unheard of nowadays... the few that are lucky enough to cash out do so at an age where it's no longer biologically possible.
I'm making things work, but it takes all of the energy and time I have, I couldn't even fathom doing it with 2 kids. And I feel I'm super lucky having a flexible schedule and a strong income. If I couldn't possibly leave work until 5 but had to do child pickup at 2, it would be impossible.