I agree with your first three paragraphs about the importance of language. But otherwise agree with erik_seaberg.
> but without a word for sadness or anger, how do we know what we're even feeling?
"I'm feeling kind of a mix between the way I felt that time that thing happened and that time I did that other stuff. I don't like it." Without words at all, this would be a flash of memory of the two events which I would realize are related (emotionally) to the event happening to me now.
For anger, particularly, the emotion (maybe better said to be a mood state) usually comes with a lot of drives. Whether we have a word for what we're feeling, we know what actions we want to take because of the feeling. Or at least I do.
Circumlocutions are born out of ideas without words to express them. E.g. (literally 5 seconds to watch the relevant part): https://youtu.be/UEKWXFESU68?t=150
> Language is one of the things that truly separates us from animals and before written language our hunter gatherer ancestors were little more than animals wearing fur skins.
Animals have a crap load of language-like elements, with taught dialects and the like. These are seen in social bees, prairie dog communities, and numerous other animals. We humans have very complex languages that facilitate a ton of nuance and novel information types. But don't sell animals, or our ancestors, short. Human civilization appears to pre-date written language by a number of centuries, with passed-down spoken language lasting for millennia (https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/10/indigeno... ).
https://www.animalcognition.org/2015/03/11/the-linguistic-ge...
> “They’re able to describe the colour of clothes the humans are wearing, they’re able to describe the size and shape of humans, even, amazingly, whether a human once appeared with a gun… In one 10th of a second, they say ‘Tall thin human wearing blue shirt walking slowly across the colony.'”