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No doubt. The people I have known in an Indian arranged marriage actually understand relationships.

They aren't trying to live in a Disney movie or Goethe novel.

My understanding is that Goethe and romanticism really messed up our views in the West about romance. We have unrealistic beliefs from trying to live up to fiction.

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Yes, and music and all other parts of culture too: the lone genius model of human achievement, suffering=greatness, the primacy of emotion, and many other tropes that are now our cultural “defaults”. It’s hard to see clearly because we’re still inside the romantic movement.

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