The thing is, the way I’ve always learned things is by doing. See a problem, and learn different angles to see that problem, different methods to approach it, play around with it some more, and keep probing it until it makes sense through intuition.
The mathematical approach with many introductory texts to this stuff do things completely backwards, from my perspective. They don’t present scenarios, problems, or anything really. They start with definitions, lemmas, theorems. If you’re lucky, they’ll give you proofs. To me, that’s like learning C by reading the standard, and only writing a Hello World program afterwards. Sure, you can get some good understanding that way, but it’s an entirely impractical learning method unless you’re already seasoned in the concepts.
To paint a more complete picture, I came across the concept of polynomial invariants in knot theory, and I managed to get my teeth into that because you can start coming up with problems, solving them, and getting some intuition. That also lead to TL diagrams, winding in (2+1)D, and I could get that down into code pretty easily and again start playing around with it. These are concrete things, and involved memorising nothing other than a handful of relationships.
I tried reading “Category Theory for the Practicing Physicist”, and it was great to begin with - but pretty quickly started just giving names for things. Names for types of categories. Names for types of relationships. Definition definition definition definition. This is through no fault of the author, it’s just how the topic is, and it’s how people who can digest that stuff understand things.
This is thing A. This is thing B. They are related through thing AB. Thing B is related to thing C through thing BC. Thing A is related to C through BCAB. Here’s a diagram. This is a theorem. Ok now on to the definition of thing D.
OK GREAT BUT WHAT DO I DO WITH IT? It’s one hell of an uphill effort for learning nothing in particular - except for words for things. That‘s why I paraphrased Fermi - “if I could remember all the names of these particles I’d have become a botanist”.