On a rather blunt note, humanity appears to be actively trying to create a race of "perfect slaves", except that we want them to be more intelligent than us, and more capable along every dimension. Not sure how anyone expects that to work out.
Touches on being vs having existential modes, transjectivity and also I & Thou.
We dont need a specific word for that to recognize that and act accordingly, many humans are more so afraid of the word “life” “sentience” “anthropomorphizing” than the real world reality and consequences right now.
I think your approach is closer to accurate than trying to turn our brain off to that possibility just because we dont like it and haven't quantified it completely.
And you can get the same "memory" effect by having a blog post that lies about a previous conversation.