I do 50% of the cooking, chores, school/daycare drop offs, work an 8.5 hour day 5 days a week, and have effectively zero time for any personal or extracurricular pursuits. I barely get any time alone with my wife as it is and if I gave up any of the moments we can snatch in between kids awake and asleep I don't think there'd be much of a relationship left. Once a fortnight I get a night to myself but often end up socialising. How do you do it? What's different about your life?
- my kids have been sleep trained to not wake up so early. They used to and now they don’t.
- if my kids wake up in the night: I put them back to bed (repeatedly if necessary) and don’t stay with them unless they are literally vomiting or need other medical attention
- I don’t work 8.5 hours a day 5 days a week. I didn’t when I was employed and don’t now
- my wife and I alternate week nights when we’re out the house. One of us can feed/bath/bed both kids by ourselves.