Regarding point #2) Absolutely yes that can be (and is) a problem for exactly the reason you say in terms of synchronising 2 (or more) PV setups to the local grid and (I would imagine) have the facility for emitting volumous clouds of magic smoke.
Fortunately the solution would appear to be use of a GPS central time clock that is fed to the 2x PV arrays individualy... if you run your own local time server you can 'skew' the clock signals to each array to get them in sync with each other and then in to a dummy load of spare lead-acids or a capacitor bank (if you want to get fancy and don't mind the 'large gray box' emitting smoke and launching itself off the wall from time to time).
Then you sync your 'mini-grid' to their slightly larger mini-grid.
Oh and when synching - never forget the old-school 4-light-bulb trick as a visual confirmation that things are synched correctly before tying in to the grid. Oh and fuses, large ones. With spares.
If you can find a friendly H.V. engineer or Linesman they might be able to tell you what clock source 'their grid' uses (GPS, Network time etc etc) which makes synching to the local-ish grid a whole lot easier if you have the exact same setup. I think the main thing is to make sure you have the dummy-load ready to feed/smooth what can be at times be a large inrush/outrush till the load equalizes.
Obviously, always seek out advice from someone that knows what they are talking about and has knolwedge of local laws, quirks of the grid etc.