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For me it is more the other way round. The older I get the less understanding I have for them. As a teenager I got along perfectly with them but now that I am almost 40 I realize that they were pretty shitty parents. Especially when I realize what they did to my siblings.

Edit: To expand I have more sympathy with my mother because I know of some of her traumas growing up. But I have a harder time to excuse my father.

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Do you have children?

After having one (1), I realized that my “shitty parents” were actually amazing superhumans, despite all their very human flaws.

Opposite experience for me. After I had kids, I realized how shitty and neglectful my parents had been. They kept me alive but they otherwise didn’t do much. They were more like roommates than parents.

That will depend very much on the individual. Someone who were beaten by their parents won’t suddenly turn around and love them when they themselves get children.

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