As someone who's been to Chernobyl, you're right. Terrible proxy.
Here's what's not: maximum risk. When something goes very wrong - and it will - the maximum damage is insane. This is why I'm against nuclear.
Oh you say, but what about this awesome new reactor, and it's got 4 domes and can withstand an earthquake and it falls into a pool of molten lava because it's on top of a volcano?
Here's the thing - you don't know what can happen. You can have the world's 2nd best army surround it and make it purposefully melt down and pollute half of europe. You can have a crazy florida christian elected by alligators and decide to pave the roads with spent fuel rods. You can have him fake all safety checks and pocket the money, till it blows up.
Your "risk per unit of energy" assumes risk is some small constant block of jello. It's not. The risk is "increased predictable risk of cancer from breathing worse air" versus "well, we didn't know a tsunami was going to hit Illinois after a lake overflowed after russia blew up their under-ocean nuclear missle sub off the coast of texas because they missed the ash tray.
Risk is not Jello. Risk is either "we're royally screwed for 10k years" or risk is "this isn't good"
Here's what I always find funny when guys like you have something happen, where they explain it's not the fault of their little plan. They give an explanation for how it happened, and expect people to say "oh, clearly that's the fault of the russian sub blowing up, not your awesome safety plan." Why would anyone think the Proud Boys would all get jobs at a nuclear plant as safety inspectors in a planned coordinated attack to make a blue state unlivable? Who would think of that - it's not your fault buddy.
Buddy, your logic, is that of a smart 14yo. The world does not care how, why, it just does it's random crap. There's nothing you can do about that, and nothing you can do to predict things. You do have to design safety for an unpredictable scenario causing maximum possible damage though. And that means nuclear power is not safe until we have a reactor that cannot destroy and irradiate tens of miles around it, even if someone tries to make it do that on purpose.