Bob's personal life shouldn't matter. He was a good guy, didn't hurt anyone, and was senselessly murdered in cold blood.
He had an affair with a married woman and spent his free time attending sex- and drug-fueled parties instead of at home with his two kids and wife. Yeah, he didn't deserve to die, but saying "he didn't hurt anyone" and was "senselessly" (as in, for absolutely no reason) murdered is a ridiculous take. Go read the comments on the Post article I linked to, and see what normal people (as in, not in the SV/VC ecochamber) think about all of this. Spoiler: largely unsympathetic to what they perceive as a rich, hedonistic "techbro" who met an untimely end.
While the unwashed masses might be unsympathetic, the lifestyle enumerated isn’t that far off from your middle to upper class debauchery and coping mechanisms (affairs, recreational drug use, etc). Someone’s husband had their feelings hurt by their partner’s behavior and the death was still senseless.
There isn’t one.
> if not to live a life where the judgement of others can’t touch you?
Material resources only get you that if you are willing to distance yourself entirely from human intercourse, in which case money – whose only purpose is exchange – is not the right form of wealth.
But it turns out that this wasn't the story at all. The guy led a rather dramatic life, and his murder wasn't random at all.
It's unfortunate that this leads to news outlets going out of their way to be salacious. It's not really much of an "apology" for the news outlets to try to correct their previous interpretation of the story. But it's also true that, sadly, many people will keep repeating a version of the story that affirms their preconceptions, and it's not entirely wrong to keep contradicting that.