I've not read it (yet), but I've been watching "Quinn's Ideas" videos about The Three Body Problem. Basically all the aliens kill your planet due to game theory, so best stay hidden.

Then there is All Tomorrows... is it even a novel? Let me just say that you don't want the Qu to find you:

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