Cities are great until you have kids and you care about their education, safety, and overall well being. That’s when suburbs start becoming really attractive.
[1] https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2017/dec/...
But more practically, if you give a homeless guy in Manhattan $200 and a bus ticket to NJ, that dude is gonna come back. The distance is sort of necessary for the desired outcome.