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Happy Anti-Valentine's Day from Grouper

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I like the concept and it got me interested in joining, but I was really put off by the sexism as I scrolled down. Almost everything is perfect, except for the few columns in your table that just scream "we've stereotyped everyone into really unimaginative roles".

Why not replace "all guys, and especially single women" with something more neutral like "people who don't like pink". I'm a guy and I don't hate valentines day.

"People who don't like pink" is significantly less funny than "all guys, and especially single women"

I would be interested in this if you didn't have to give it access to your facebook information.

I certainly appreciate your hesitation, but we currently don't have any plans to offer other forms of authentication, simply because it would slow down the onboarding experience by at least an order of magnitude.

We want to get people meeting each other offline as quickly as possible (not filling our laborious questionnaires) and Facebook really helps to lower that friction.

"we currently don't have any plans to offer other forms of authentication, simply because it would slow down the onboarding experience by at least an order of magnitude."

I think you are overestimating both the time required to fill out a questionnaire and the reluctance of people to do so.

I think I speak for a lot of people when I say that people generally don't want any chance of their online dating lives to intersect with their social media profiles. The peace of mind of knowing that there is no interaction between a dating site and their Facebook newsfeed is enough to justify filling out a few duplicate questions.

To a large portion of their audience, that's a feature rather than a bug. Not so much that their information is opened, but rather that they have assurance the human beings they're meeting have real friends.

I'll echo the sentiment and I've been a huge Facebook Platform advocate. Here is the "application" screen (with fields filled in) after you allow Facebook access: http://i.imgur.com/XQyQy.jpg

Surely having an option to manually fill in those fields (with the addition of asking email/password/name) instead of pulling from the Facebook API is within reason.

I like the idea, but I'd really like to know more about why you need some of this information (I'm sure you expected these kinds of questions from Hacker News).

For instance, why do you need to know if i'm interested in guys or girls if the matching is, for now, always the same (3 guys 3 girls).

Why do you need my phone number? What would you ever use it for?

It seems likely from the format of the information that some of it will be shared with whomever I'm matched with. What information do you give them exactly?

Something like giving out your phone number, especially if it's not optional, makes me much more careful about signing up somewhere.

This site is going to send you on a date with three girls offline. If I were a girl and someone told me to go on a date with a dude who was unwilling to even share his number with the coordinating party, I would feel very unsafe and vulnerable. I would want to have this guy traceable to a real live human being to feel secure enough to go out with.

I just joined. They have access to a lot of my personal information on Facebook now. I hope they have some fancy algorithms to match me with a compatible group. Anyone from Grouper want to elaborate on the algorithms?

I'm a fairly trusting person, but I think your Facebook permissions need to be rethought. I really doubt you need access to all my photos, family, and info that other people share with me.

What if I'd prefer to Grouper with a different gender mix?

That will be a feature we'll add in the future, but for now 3 guys + 3 girls keeps things simple.

Personally, I prefer 1 guy, 5 girls but that might just be me..

Unsurprisingly, that's a relatively common feature request. Although that one isn't on the roadmap :)

Awesome on paper. Much less awesome in reality.

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