Some people unfortunately have no choice regarding living alone versus taking on roommates or moving back in with family (and this isn’t an option for everyone). Thankfully in my situation I can shoulder my upcoming rent increase without needing to contemplate roommates or moving back with my parents.

For me the big problem is the purchase prices. I’m not going to get a six-figure windfall; my parents are low-income and can’t provide down payment assistance, and I don’t work for FAANG and thus I have no RSUs, instead relying on salary and annual bonuses. It will take me over a decade to save even $100k, which isn’t enough for a down payment. Then there are the actual mortgage payments.

I see the writing on the wall. I will need to leave Silicon Valley eventually, barring either a major drop in housing prices or a major rise in my compensation. I have no idea where I’d move to; I’m a lifelong Californian who was raised in Sacramento and whose only significant periods of time out of state were in Tokyo (eight months) and Seattle (one summer). But a move is looking inevitable.