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> Results One hundred eight intervention and 107 control families provided six-week follow-up information with complete actigraphy data for 96 in each group: 96.9 % of intervention and 97.9 % of control infants had an average of 2 or more nightly wakes, a risk difference of −0.2 % (95 % CI: −1.32, 0.91). 4 % of intervention and 14 % of control infants had parent-assessed severe sleep problems: relative risk 0.3, a risk difference of −10 % (CI: 0.11, 0.84-16.8 to −2.2). Relative to controls, intervention parents reported improved baseline-adjusted parental depression (CI: −3.7 to −0.4), fatigue (CI: −5.74 to −1.68), sleep quality (CI: −1.5 to −0.2), and sleep cognitions: doubts (CI: −2.0 to −0.6), feeding (CI: − 2.1 to - 0.7), anger (CI: − 1.8 to - 0.4) and setting limits (CI: −3.5 to −1.5).

> Conclusions The intervention improved caregivers' assessments of infant sleep problem severity and parental depression, fatigue, sleep, and sleep cognitions compared with controls.

This is largely true for myself - sleep training is for the parents to get some semblance of their lives back.

The first 3 months of my daughter's life - i'd never been more tired in my life.

So it's a selfish choice that doesn't necessarily take into account the child's wellbeing. I don't know your religious/cultural motivations but maybe don't do something that makes you miserable and severely disrupts your life?

See the co-sleeping debate is never ending and highly dependant on family genetics but the statistics referenced above are related to the parents' perception and well-being and not the cognitive development and well-being of the infants themselves.

Parental well-being is important too, especially if increased risk of depression leads to a parent having suicidal thoughts. Having depressed or fewer parents raising the child is not a guaranteed improvement

Ah yes so parents should be more likely to be depressed, become unfit, lose motivation for life because they need to 100% be with their baby at all times. You are aware how that's not a viable long term solution right?

No government forces you to have kids. If you’re up to the task then do it perfectly and enjoy while doing it; if not don’t bring misery upon yourself, your baby and potentially the society by raising a kid without catering to their emotional needs because you’re too busy.

However my views are based on the economic/societal/parental expectations in (progressive) North America and it’s certainly different elsewhere.

Edit: Added specificity

It's okay. I was like you. Once you have kids the position and understanding shifts to be more compassionate towards other parents and their situation.

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