Doctors were unable to find anything in the fluid of my knee and the only thing that seemed to work was corticosteroids. Prior to that I was given the diagnosis of pseudo-gout. I took methotrexate in my twenties and thirties for years, my hair fell out, and I couldn't drink. When I moved I went to reup my prescription at a Rheumatologist who ran a research clinic and as she went over my paperwork she looked in shock as she read through it and asked me, "Have you actually ever had site testing for RA or did they just look for markers?" Turns out, all they'd ever looked for was markers, tried methotrexate, and my symptoms stopped. Doctors at Baylor Scott & White thought that was good enough. At the time, I was told repeatedly that we know "a lot" about RA and that I could trust the diagnosis. I was slowly weened off of methotrexate and we waited to see if I would have a flare-up. The flare-up never came and she told me not to come back after telling me more or less what you've said here.
I also learned it's incredibly difficult to sue a doctor for a misdiagnosis, even if they put you on a drug like methotrexate and took years of normalcy from your life.