The fear of talking to women being based on some kind of ancient perceived threat is entirely conjecture. It is far more likely to be learned behavior from culture, media, and just regular social dynamics.
Real relationships are rarely being formed through Tinder. Tinder is hardly what "everyone" is doing either. There was a recent study suggesting young adults forming relationships with partners that were existing friends ~50% of the time. Tinder and other apps in more socially affluent circles in my experience is looked down on as trashy.
This person really read a poem to his fling? That reads so bizarre. The fact that the person thought he "would be taller" when they first met up was already a red flag. Doing something as strange as that in 2023 on top of it...
I dunno. I want my 6 minutes back.