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Paul,

Now that you're a parent, I'm curious if your opinion has changed (or will change in the coming years).

For example, do you think you could have built ViaWeb if you had had children at that time?

Is it possible to "neglect everything except your work AND your family", and still have the same probability of success a your childless doppleganger, who neglects everything except work?

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Before I had kids, I knew that having kids made it harder to do great work. What I didn't understand was the way it happens. Before I had kids, I thought of kids as a distracting responsibility. Now I realize that the reason kids take up so much of your time is that you enjoy spending time with them.

So for me at least the answer is not merely that I can't focus on work to the degree I used to, but that I wouldn't want to.

That much is true. I guess you're lucky with your son. My daughter sleeps so badly I've discovered a new side of my wife called "apocalyptic night mommy".

I _love_ that I'm not the only one! We need a hacker parents support group.

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