I like this gedankenexperiment: Imagine you're in the vicinity of a supergiant black hole orbited by a close binary pair of neutron stars about to merge with each other.
The neutron stars are close enough to the black hole that you see multiple images of them, and the images are highly distorted. E.g.: You can see them even when they're "behind" the black hole due to the highly bent path of the light.
You have hundreds of probes scattered over a large volume of space, each equipped with an optical telescope and a gravity wave sensor similar to LIGO.
What would you expect to observe?
Would the frequency of the final "ringdown" chirp before the merger be observed identically in the optical and gravity sensors? Would they be observed as "coming from" the same spots in the sky? Would you expect to feel a higher contribution to gravity by the neutron stars due to their multiple images? Etc...
It's interesting that our intuition about the consistency of the rules related to the speed of causality imply that the answers ought to be: Yes, identical, yes, yes, etc...
But that means that gravity is definitely self-interacting, and it also means that gravity can be focused, just like light can be focused by gravitational lensing.
This implies that stars at the edge of a galactic disk "see" more gravity from the opposite side of their galaxy due to the lensing effect of the central bulge!