You're showing a disproportionate emotional response to a point he didn't even make.

The idea is that as parents, we send subtle signals to our young children about how adult life should be. A father spending 6h a day at work and the rest with their child is preparing a personality potentially lacking a builtin discipline derived subconsciously from observing the parental example.

This has nothing to do with your worries about your death bed regrets. They're valid too, but besides the point the PP was making.