> being friends with your neighbors a far more obvious answer to this

Being friends with neighbours prioritises the home by making social interactions subservient to it. Being neighbours with your friends prioritises those people by deprecating where you live to it. There isn't a single answer. But speaking as someone with many acquaintances, including very good ones, but a handful of close friends (and maybe a dozen or two, at most, friend friends), it's easier to change where you live than whom you love.