I hang out with the family on weekends, my work day schedule is 9am to 5pm and then 9pm to 2am, Sunday night through Friday at 5pm. The 4 hour window between working sessions is when I hang out with the kids before they go to bed. I usually fit some hours in on Saturday but mostly the weekend is all family time.

All that stuff you mention is mostly my wife during the day. My kids go to school / daycare so she has time to maintain the house and shop.

I work from home and co-founded a fairly large and successful software business that is remote only. This is the only way I can work this much and see family properly.

I’ve had enough exits and frugal savings over the past 20 years to buy multiple rental properties, and I make a good salary.

My wife is very appreciative of what I do and knows all we have is because of my career. She is extremely helpful and accommodating, and we are a team - she manages the kids and house while I make us financially secure.

The best way to summarize my philosophy is long term thinking. I always try to make decisions and investments that help long term, even if there is pain in the short term. You wait long enough and the seeds planted 5, 10, 20 years ago bear fruit. And if you plant those every year, after a while it’s just ripe fruit all the time.

I have no moral issue leaving a giant inheritance to my children - the family unit is the most important thing and I see my work as the beginning of a multi-generational project. I want them to have every advantage in life, but also the philosophical tools to properly manage and grow their wealth, build new businesses, nurture their spiritual and intellectual souls.

There is so much more I could say but I’ve rambled on enough. Like you said we are probably of similar mind in many ways.

One final note is that my family is quite religious which is not typical for big city tech types. However it is a key reason why we are happy IMO.