You're free to show everyone my stupidity by answering my questions.
My understand is that a photon is a discrete packet of energy.
There is no such thing in the physical world as a 'discreet packet of energy'. This is an abstraction for simulation.
> Why can't I count those? If there is an excitation in the electromagnetic field, and then there is not, and then there is one - why are those not separate, countable photons?
That would be like you turning your stereo on and off and declaring the sound to be sound particles. You can do it, but you're ignoring physical reality.
Computers work with alternating voltages, but that doesn't make them 'electricity packets' or 'electricity particles'.
Electromagnetic radiation is going to be a magnitude at a certain frequency over time.