The final working setup: Basic ISP-provided modem/router/wifi combo, cheap near-zero-config wifi APs to reach distant rooms, entire setup on a lamp timer to cut power for 30min a day at 4AM. The thing is, that solution is decent even if you understand the more advanced stuff.
Now at work I see how many SWEs are, in a way, too smart for their own good. I keep telling them, make your solutions less galaxy-brained. No you are not making another custom DBMS-type thing just to serve a few kinds of requests from adjacent systems. If random other people can't understand it, it'll get rewritten in 2 years tops.