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Interesting, I hadn't heard about research into how introversion affects dating outcomes.

Can you post the sources you're relying on here? I want to read more on this.

There aren’t any, because it’s nonsense. Even introvert and extravert is mainly a myth; during experiments there are no clear measurable differences. One recent study even claimed the only difference was that introverts were slightly smarter.

There is also no measured connection between being an introvert and having low testosterone.

And in fact around 2/3 of all psychological research cannot be reproduced. Take any psychological claim with a giant pinch of salt.

That's my base assumption, but I figured my message would be more likely to create a dialog to clear up the nonsense.

Sounds like he made a few claims: 1) "An introverted woman will still get approached by men", 2) "Introverted men, on the other hand, often just don't pursue women, especially if they have low testosterone (or sex drive) as the OP probably does", 3) "In most cultures men are expected to do the initial approach", 4) "introverted men are often very bad at reading women's signals", 5) "women just don't need to signal that much to get results".

1, 3 and 5 feel like super common sense to me, were you asking for sources on that? I'm asking mostly because I wonder whether my intuition is completely off when it comes to these things, or if there are people who live in completely different realities where women are expected to make the first step, more women approach men than the opposite and men really don't need to signal interest because they get so many offers.

I was asking for a source that showed that introverted women had happier outcomes ("results") than introverted men in dating.

Introverted women probably get hit on more ("more offers"), but using that to conclude that they see better outcomes is like saying it's a good thing that my dating life is successful because my inbox is filled with unsolicited dick pics.

The primary argument was that it makes it a voluntary decision for them ("opt back in"), because they'd have the opportunity. It doesn't mention that those are necessarily great opportunities, but we usually consider having opportunities better than not having them.

If you're unemployed and you get an offer a week, you're better off than if you didn't get any offers, even if those offers aren't great. Options > no options.

This isn't necessarily true in dating. Many of the "offers" come in the form of harassment.

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