I will out myself to some folks, and hope they keep me pseudo-anonymous :). I rescinded my Google offer to take another which had a more personally meaningful role and paid significantly higher (I think 50% higher?).

Google then put me on a call with a "senior" recruiter who said they'd beat the offer no question, which would have had me start at N level but be paid at the upper end of N+1 level. I refused.

Then they proceeded to tell me how my interview scores were barely passable. How my work will be meaningless at this other FAANG. Meanwhile the actual recruiter I worked with was on the call and stated disappointment but was respectful.

Now to this day, every year or so, a Google recruiter reaches out to me asking me to consider a role because my interview performance was so great.

So I follow the line of, if an employer gives me respect I will give it back 2x. If they disrespect me or violate a personal boundary, then I prioritize myself. This has resulted in many employers who love me, and a few who I imagine despise me. I recommend others do the same. I arrived here after many years of therapy and consequently find work more enjoyable.