First, I think that calling attention to our tendency to avoid difficult things is a really good call. This mindset extends to almost everything in life, and can have serious consequences. Relinquishing this dislike of discomfort is at the center of many contemplative practices for good reason.
> And I am not sure the behaviors are so much collective + self-harming as they are individual + collective-harming.
I would argue that the behaviors are both. One gives rise to the other, and the other reinforces the former.
They are collective + self-harming because the collective behavior lulls the individual into a sense of "I don't need to think about this either". The end result is an action taken without an understanding of the consequences, even if those consequences may eventually kill me.
They are self-harming + collective because the individual who is aware of the impact but chooses to engage in it anyway is now doing so in spite of the knowledge. And that stance is also exported to the collective - "The people who have thought about this are still charging ahead anyway, so I might as well".
> we might not be meeting people where they are (which is probably important if we want to change their disposition)
Meeting people where they are is something that I care about, and I think it's a good mindset to apply to issues like this. With that said, it's not clear to me which aspects of the conversation here aren't meeting people where they are, and how the semantic distinction (if it exists) clears that up.
How can we repackage this more clearly to meet people where they are?