My frank experience with women in tech is that I see absolutley no difference with men except women tend to be more organized (I am a mess so what do I know).

But a pattern I keep seeing is women become unhappy in roles that are not very socially engaging. And this isn't because they are women but because of social expectations and upbringing. Women who just do the job because they like it just like male counterparts do great (or not). My point is that even though there are many women interested in STEM at the outset, how they see themselves matters a lot when talking about job satisfaction.

I've met multiple women over my career that were just brilliant but they set themselves up to be in management or other roles that aren't very technical but require social skills and all the while I want to ask them why they want to do that when they can just be a rockstar in technical roles and this is the only explanation I have.

Just to be clear, I am only talking about the majority I have seen. Perhaps everyone just leans into their strength and it is easier for women to be socially succesful? I feel like in tech at least, there is a competition to get women working in your team and management wins a lot.