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Ask HN: How close are you to your parents?

9 pointsGalenErso5 comments

I thought to create a discussion thread where people could discuss the relationships they have with their parents, for those who are comfortable to do so, of course.

How close are you to your parents? Do they live close to you or far from you? Do you get along with them? Are they divorced? What influence have your parents had on your life and your career? Have you treated your parents to something you wanted to offer them for a long time?

Please maintain a respectful and understanding attitude toward others.

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Sounds like you want Reddit.

That's a lot of intimate and personal information for free. I doubt many security conscious users here would be interested in sharing.

Might as well ask us what street we grew up on, our first pet's name, or our social security number.

Good luck with your data collection OP, though I'd guess you might get better results on reddit.

I'm sure this was created with good intent but I'm not sure about this thread.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11897239/Houston-co...

My parents were divorced and remarried before I was born. They were supportive of my career choice (they never had something specific in mind, e.g. they didn't steer me into being a doctor), and helped me move out/in to college, but didn't pay for any of it (fair enough). I was independent enough and they were annoying enough that moving out was something I wanted. 13 years ago, I settled down in a city about 3 hours away from them. I talked to them regularly, and came over for holidays.

As of today, mom died last year, and dad has dementia and lives in a nursing home. That's a shame, because I liked mom way more, and she was everything that one could want in a mom. I have a list of daddy issues, but I'll cut it short and say that while he was physically present the entire time I was growing up, he wasn't emotionally present.

my parents supported my plans to start a company. then after working insanely hard for years trying to get it off the ground with minimal funding mostly provided by them they sabotaged my work by constant criticism, comparing my career to careers of their friends kids and not backing up my plans at a critical point in time when i was scaling after initial impressive revenue. they forced me to bankrupt the company. i eventually moved back to the US and i am still trying to put the pieces together. my relationship with them has changed.

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