It can both be true that OP is getting what they asked for, and that this is a bad thing for Apple to unilaterally allow. How does Apple know that OP signed up to have their preferences ignored?
This is reminiscent of those "ad supported" ISPs of yesteryear that people would subscribe to then complain that it has ads.
(I founded a large MVNO and have been shouting at my screen for a lot of the incorrect assumptions made by others).
That it's been like this forever doesn't make it right.
ETA: the ad-supported ISP analogy misses the crucial distinction that the ISP knows I signed up for them to MITM my data. Apple knows nothing of the sort.