>Buying a "high end GPU" isn't buying a 4090 or even two, it's 250k on a DGX unit and putting it in a datacentre. You will probably be able to find a service that would sign a confidentiality agreement and provide you with this service for less than 250k.
I haven't started to play with LLMs locally in anger yet, but I was under the impression that you could use a 4090 in combination with FlexGen to achieve this rather than having to buy special hardware?