I imagine your average rider is probably a lot closer to noodling around than a group ride.
I imagine your average rider is probably a lot closer to noodling around than a group ride.
Additionally, if you simply ride your bike more often your groin and siting bones will feel more comfortable by acclimating to the pressure and movement. It's helpful to wear appropriate clothing in the areas that contact the saddle as well, such as a chamois liner, to reduce friction and add an appropriate amount of cushion.
The one-bike-that-does-it-all (aka "quiver-killer") is an elusive beast in the cycling community, it's no surprise your road bike doesn't fit the bill. The style most people end up settling on is something along the lines of a light-ish steel touring frame, with reasonable slack and tire clearance, equipped with a Brooks saddle and handlebars with multiple hand positions.