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What to do when you are empty inside and the only thing you think is end it up

Since one years now, I don't feel any joy in life anymore. I don't know how to remedy this. And leaving too soon would hurt my family. Do you have any ideas on how to get out of this abyss?

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As another commenter said, get to a doctor ASAP. In my country you should even go to the Emergency door for issues like this. Don't know what's best in your country.

When I was depressed, these posts helped:

http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-...

http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-par...

And if you like them, I find everything by her extremely funny, so go ahead and read up.

Good luck and hope you get better soon!

I too suggest you get a dog and regularly take walks in green areas like parks. When you are outside start up conversations with strangers. This article may provide more ideas. https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2017/06/15/the-str...

1) See a doctor. 2) Quit your job if it’s causing you a great deal of stress. 3) Get a dog… if you can afford it. Pets a a great stress relief and it will give you something to be joyful about.

You get off HN and see a mental health professional immediately.

Yep. Actually it can be hard to find an appointment w/ a specialist so you should see your primary care provider for help ASAP and get a referral to a specialist.

Try (1) SNRI or SSRI antidepressant (your doc will probably need to tweak your dose and try more than one drug), (2) exercise, even a little helps but if you were training for a marathon that would be ideal, (3) talk therapy, (4) spirituality, pets and other sources of meaning.

You should go at all of those with full force as depression can kill you just like cancer can.

dial 988 if you're in the US

You haven't said anything about other emotions, so I've got to ask: do you let yourself feel anything? Not just joy, but sadness, disappointment, anger, or even outright hatred? Or are you so out of touch with your emotions (as many men are taught to be) that you've forgotten how to feel?

If so, I'd start by finding a way to reclaim your emotions. You have the right to feel everything, positive and negative alike. To start with, here's an exercise. I want to you read my post and shout, "Hey, TheMoonToMyLeft, GO FUCK YOURSELF!". I want you to get angry, if you can. I want you to feel it, and act out that feeling.

If you can't even do that much, then you're in a deeper hole than you suspect and you need to call your local suicide prevention hotline ASAP.

Also, you need to start listening to heavy metal. Go fire up Paranoid, Master of Reality, and Sabbath Bloody Sabbath by Black Sabbath.

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