> but why is it so common for people to think psychedelics are opening us up to what is ""real""
That's a great question.
I think it's that psychedelics can cause profound changes to the way you perceive yourself and the world, and the insights from those experiences can be genuinely useful in practical and measurable ways. I haven't had an experience like that with sugar.
For example, my mom dying was extremely upsetting to me for quite a while. For some reason I was just angry about it. The way it happened, the way her death was drawn out, the suffering, the way people handled it – all of it sat in my mind and body like hot misery whenever I let myself think about it.
Then one day I had some psilocybin. I went for a walk with friends, climbed a tree, and sat and looked at the ocean for a while. In that tree I thought "I wonder what would happen if I thought about something awful?". I thought about my mom. Rather than get upset and angry like I normally would, something in my mind caused to me to recall how funny and playful she was. I started to think about that, how being angry was so different from the way she'd handle it, how that was something I loved about her. It made me intensely happy to realize that was a choice. For half a minute I was kind of ecstatic. I thought, wow, I can feel good. Remembering my mom can feel great.
And since then it always does. I've spoken to friends and acquaintances who lost their moms in the same way, and each time I've had a sort of fear of being a bad friend — what if I let my own loss get in the way of being a good friend? — and somehow that positivity persists and I can just focus on being supportive and empathetic.
None of that is more "real". The way my mom died is still awful. I just learned I didn't need to care anymore, so I don't. That's profound to me. Sugar's most profound effect on me is my brain convincing me that I want it when I arguably don't. That's fascinating in its own right, but a lot less interesting in the scheme of things.