I tend to disagree with some of the top comments here.

I was in a similar spot as well, "sucked it up" for way too long until I started interviewing for new jobs and realized that there were many, better suited jobs (better fit) for me out there. (Salary upgrades too)

There are many places that are more "flat structures", where it's encouraged to take decisions as a group. No one is an official "lead/architect/decision maker": we're all happy to bounce ideas around and ask to the ones with more experience in the revelant areas for advice.

When interviewing, you can ask questions around this specific issue as well to find the right places.

Where I work right now, most devs share the same feelings as you towards "architect" roles.

Software is a craft, not an exact science.