I dont think we disagree that much. We are both defending two sides of what should be a balance, with the same stated goal of helping people, and pick one because of our personal experience.

Its just make me insane when i see so many people think they are being the good guys by "being nice" when my life (and sometimes theirs) would have been 200% better if i had close friends or family being tougher / more real with me. Fortunately i had the opportunity to meet these kind of people in other settings (boxing, military guys, entrepreneurs, some coaches...) and that helped me so much but not everyone has the same luck.