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Arrival - best science fiction movie in recent memory (maybe ever?)

Ex Machina - also great.

Her - different style, but still very good (also with recent LLM developments maybe closer than we think).

The Martian (not as good, but entertaining)

Also I know parents have their preferences, but 12 seems old enough for any of this (if they’re reading Asimov)

I was disappointed in interstellar (but it is a beautiful movie) just dumb in a lot of ways and the “but what above love” subplot really annoyed me.

I’d give gravity an honorable mention. The director’s other movie Children of Men is one of my favorites but doesn’t really qualify as scifi.

For shows, the expanse is probably the best recent thing.

I’m not sure if Super8 qualifies, but I think that’s a generally underrated movie.

Arrival and Children of men are also both in the rare category where the film is better than the source material.

I also forgot about district 9 which I haven’t seen in years, but remember being good.

I think that if OP finds The Matrix too adult, Ex Machina is even less appropriate.

Her is a good recommendation but I struggle to imagine a 12 year old identifying well with alienated-middle-aged-man-malaise ;) (although I loved Lost in Translation at 14 or so)

Arrival is a great recommendation. I had some quibbles with its science, but it’s good Sci Fi. Then he can introduce him to Ted Chiang’s other writing

Ex Machina has some nudity, but less gun violence? It’s a lot more idea driven than action/violence driven (matrix). And the themes are different. Depends on what people culturally mean as adult I suppose.

Its been a while, but isn't the main theme sexual slavery? I could understand why people consider that adult.

Not really? Main theme is a general intelligence that’s not aligned with you may trick or deceive you.

I admittedly don't have kids, but media is so saturated and oversexualized that I personally feel that thought-provoking fiction that dissects and critiques urges is possible and good to explore at some point, in safe company, ammended with brief discussion. I'm certainly thankful I got offered these conversations.

That said, Ex Machina might be a little intense in that regard, even though I seem to remember that the explicity is mostly some nudity. It's a great movie, but probably not the first or fifth I would show a 12-year-old with the above discursive parameters included. The themes of corruption and "fucking around and finding out" are so heavy that you don't want to just leave a child with it.

It could be your tenth pick, though, or perhaps something for 6-18 months on of successfully watching and discussing movies and their depiction of life in an open way.

Not sure about Ex Machina for a 12 y/o:

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0470752/parentalguide

I also seem to recall that Her was thematically aimed at adults.

Wasn’t there any entire scene where he jerks off while she talks dirty to him? Maybe I’m misremembering or its another movie.

Parents Guide for Her:

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1798709/parentalguide

OP should probably consult the IMDB Parents Guide for all of these. Everyone has their own ideas about what's okay for kids and what's not.

I was confused about the movie you were talking about - in “her” yeah there’s this scene, but the screen is black (and it’s more uncomfortable than anything else).

Parent can always watch first. 12yo is middle school right? 8th grade? I doubt this would be a 12yr olds first exposure to this kind of thing (and the context of the movie’s story is not a bad place for it).

Rereading the OPs request they mention “adult language” in the matrix so you’re probably right that my recs won’t be a good fit.

Ex Machina is rated R. It's a great movie but the language, nudity, and sexual content might not be appropriate for a 12 year old.

Your 12yo will look at Asian chicks a lot differently after Ex Machina.

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