I have bike commuted in the following places without near death: * New York City * San Francisco * Portland * Seattle * Raleigh Durham * Chattanooga TN * Salt Lake City

For sure there are some cities where biking is terrible, but I am not sure it’s a “majority”. It also takes some awareness to ride your bike safely in a city, but actually, doing anything in a city takes a bit more awareness and caution.

Is it possible that you could avoid death while cycling by improving your cycling skills a bit? You could join a group of (still alive) cyclists to learn the ropes.