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I know it's NYPost but give the article a chance. It captures a sentiment about post-COVID, app-centric dating that I haven't seen expressed before.

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There's no mainstream media anymore. There's so much more "attitude" than news. If a good snippet of journalism pokes through, good for them.

App-based dating seems so dysfunctional to me. I can't imagine using it, I can't imagine wanting to be with anybody who used it.

Remember the site "Hot or Not," and how everyone labeled it so shallow? Then Tinder came along and suddenly it was okay to quick reduce somebody to only their appearances. I think that's the real problem with dating apps: it makes it too easy to focus on superficial things, and less on things that truly matter in a relationship.

Nobody wants to use apps. They're not an end goal in themselves. People want sex, companionship, a relationship, etc.

So join a club, sport, church, etc?

Clubs and sports are usually skewed toward a single gender.

Then join a book club or knitting circle.

There are plenty of co-ed sports leagues. I played kickball for years before COVID and the teams were always about equal.

Some are, but there are plenty that have reasonable gender ratios.

Off the top of my head... Casual sports like kickball, slow-pitch, frisbee (ultimate and golf), etc. Running (and if you want to drink while you run check out hash house harriers). Tennis and pickle ball. Bocce ball.

Dancing. Both line dancing and social ballroom dancing.

Those don't work as well as the apps, plus if you make it obvious that's why you're joining them people won't like you, as that's not the point of them.

I admittedly can't relate to contemporary dating woes, and I'm sure it sucks, but there's 100% absolutely for sure just GOT to be a better source to submit than the NY Post, which just lies outright to further the Murdoch agenda (which is itself a self-licking ice cream).

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