The messages I absorbed when young roughly said that if you code on Christmas instead of socializing with family, then you are true programmer. A lot of the gatekeeping of hobbies against newbies is all bout checking who is "true fan". And true fans are not social. Are you here cause friends invited you to be with them? That is wrong. Did you came with open mind, zero knowledge and intention to socialize? That is wrong too. Did you became interested because of friends? That is wrong too. You should not be interested in things because anything social. It is not pure enough.
But among people IRL who socialize a lot, including males, they get interested in what others do. They change activities to where people are. They engage in a lot of give and take "I accompany you to your thing and you go to mine".